I Give Myself Permission To...

Permission:

authorization, consent, authority license, approval, blessing, clearance, acceptance, empowerment, freedom, the go-ahead, he thumbs up: The right or ability to do something that is given by someone who has the power to decide if it will be allowed or permitted.

The story, as old as time, has been the plight of the “Woman” as she continues to evolve in a world that has always seemed to attach sanctions, muzzles, and the identity of who she is.

Today, we would hope that we as women now live in a world where Full Access has been granted. We have climbed mountains, accomplished goals in the economical system, shaped education, advanced in entertainment, became the largest sports figures, and made major advancements in our communities. In accomplishing so much, we have failed to nourish ourselves in the process.

When providing help, encouragement, tools, strategies and navigating people are you giving yourself that same permission? Are you giving yourself permission to grow, be happy, to live an abundant life. Are you giving yourself permission to cry, laugh, close doors, open doors, or just sit still? Let’s take a journey on the process of “Giving yourself permission”.

"Permission says that you are open to the possibility of positive things happening. Without permission, there is no growth."

-Nedra Tawwab

You have the right or ability to do something that is given by yourself. You have the power to decide if it will be allowed or permitted.

In time of the awareness of Mental Health being at its peak, we often find ourselves giving and extending Grace to everyone but ourselves. This is especially difficult for those of us who are considered “Pourers of People''. We see the new and like the “Stealth Bomber’ we go right in to meet the needs and seal the wounds of those who are in need.

“Pourers” are needed desperately these days; however, what happens when the "Pourer” is dry? Many times, our cups began to run dry due to our own self-sabotage by not allowing ourselves the permission to Breathe, Cry, Love, Laugh, Be Happy, Be Sad, Be Still, and just Be. It is okay to give yourself permission to “Be”. To be is to exist. The truth is, you are allowed to give yourself permission to be who you are.

The Art of Permission

“Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to be our brave authentic selves – to be brave and afraid at the same time; permission slips are a way to state our intention for how we want to behave.

— Brené Brown

#1 Self Care

I Give Myself Authorization:

I give myself permission to Sleep in on Saturday and not answer my phone. To watch all the TV I want, To pay to get my nails done. To buy those $200 shoes.

#2 Being Responsible for Other’s Emotions

I Give Myself Authorization:

To not take on the weight of the world by ignoring my own emotional needs that keeps and makes me Happy.

#3 Perfectionism

I Give Myself Authorization:

To not complete every task or assignment I feel is mine that was given to me by someone else.

To Not worry about what others will think and

To Not worry or be concerned about what looks good to people and not myself.

#4 Be Comfortable with Being Me

I Give Myself Authorization:

To be “good enough”, get it wrong, Love my shape, my wrinkles, my laugh, my walk, My Authentic Me.

#5 Saying No

I Give Myself Authorization:

To say no to ______ for the sake of ________.

Putting others needs ahead of my own and who love to please, this can be a challenging one.

6# Be Powerful and Successful

I Give Myself Authorization:

Do not be afraid of my success. To not downplay who I am, To not be ashamed that I worked hard to achieve what I have, To not downplay who I am called to be.

You no longer need anyone else’s permission. The only person you need permission from is yourself. So, stop withholding permission from yourself. Instead, give it freely!